Why is it Difficult to Fall in Love with an Entrepreneur and How to Change That

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So you’re in love but you feel the one thing which could be a problem is this person is an Entrepreneur. It can be easy to want to love an Entrepreneur for their drive, determination, the relentless pursuit of their passion, their appetite for risk and the wealth and power they can generate. But all of that comes with something. It comes with the need for the entrepreneur to have the utmost freedom, flexibility and trust in a loving, supporting and honest partner. It also comes with you needing to have the ability to be independent of him, have your own life going and be able to function with flexibility and be secure being alone at times when you want his company.

And these attributes you can make it difficult to fall in love with one because relationships need commitment, dedication, and time together in order to grow. How can you build together if it seems you’re in it by yourself?

Being in love with an entrepreneur can be like loving someone who is already committed to someone else he loves dearly and more than likely he won’t leave her (the work) but he’ll sacrifice you to keep her.

For some men entrepreneurs, they may make themselves subconsciously difficult to love or conveniently too busy for love because it can be annoying and down right challenging to be in a relationship. A seasoned man will know there is going to be some complaining which comes with the territory of being with him. He’s probably already guarded and anticipating the day you and he are sleeping with your backs turned toward each other because you’re upset. He can hear your voice nagging him about his whereabouts or missing out on events important to you or not spending enough time with you.

For some women entrepreneurs, it’s easy to put the guards up on making themselves available for love because they know it’ll mean double duty for them such as keeping the house functioning and finding time to take care of themselves and others. She knows you’ll complain about her not coming home early enough and she knows you may have some preconceived thoughts about why she’s working so late which makes you feel neglected.

Then there is you.

You’re doing tons of research and asking questions from too many of the wrong people with too many opinions on how to love an Entrepreneur which may be clouding your judgment. Entrepreneurs are people, too. They sleep, eat and breathe the same air as you do.

So the question isn’t “why is it so difficult to love an Entrepreneur?” The question should be “How can I change that?”

Start by knowing who you are and what you want in a relationship. Next, change what you are thinking about before you even go into the relationship.

Are you thinking it’s not going to work right out the gate? Then you will be right. Are you wanting love because of the lifestyle it can afford to give you or are you wanting love because you want to love the full person? Do you need someone to complete you, make you happy and give you a reason to have a purpose? Or do you have an amazing life, are secure with yourself and flexible?

Being with an Entrepreneur requires an independent and well-balanced individual who understands to love thyself and not look to the other person for their happiness, fulfillment or completion. This person must also have a stable and positive mind-set to be able to maintain the relationship for the ups and downs it will bring.

Oftentimes people are looking for their mate to fill a void or give them a reason to live. It would be lovely in a perfect world if people could do this, but we live in a society where we tend to be emotionally needy, overwhelmed and wanting what other people seem to have. At times we are people pleasers and instead of looking within for our own purpose, we live our lives through our mate.

To change this, take a step back and examine yourself and where you are in life. Use the following example questions to start learning about what you want before wanting to love an Entrepreneur.

 What’s missing in your life?

 Are you already happy?

 What things do you have going on that keep you busy and satisfied?

 Are you comfortable being alone or do you have abandonment issues?

 Do you think the best in things first or do you tend to think the worse?

You absolutely can love an Entrepreneur as long as you do the work on yourself first. Go into it with an open mind and EXPECT to win. Know that the Entrepreneur is feeling similar things as you, and if you want to know what he or she needs from you in order for you to get the love you want them, just ask.

The heart wants what it wants and when it wants something, it’ll make the appropriate concessions to get it and keep it.

Temeca Magee is the Editor-In-Chief of the Milso Guide, a social media platform designed specifically for women and the those who love them who are in need of relationship answers on how to make it work. Milso means "Military Significant Other". Her passion for helping increased tremendously from being a part of the military community during pre/post war times. However, her work has branched off from just serving the military and it is trending to encompass all women who can relate to the journey of being a woman.